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In other news: Man told to carry his weight.

People of the world, there is an urgent need for all of us to be mindful of others.

A while ago, I hopped onto the train fully aware, equipped, and prepared for the usual crowded experience as it were also rush hour. This means, I try my best to make room for more people, who also need to be on time for work like me.

As the train filled quickly, I was standing in the middle of the aisle. Then I noticed a person who, upon entering the doors proceeded to demand quite loudly that we move further down the lane when it was visually evident that there was no more room to move into. “We just have to make do with where we are” I thought.

Finally, as the train moved forward, he quietly stood beside me and proceeded to taking out his mobile phone to play a game. Which was OKAY until it became an inconvenience to everyone.

As the train made stops and the crowd grew bigger, I have observed how this man managed to shake his head each time he was pushed a little by the eager commuters but never did he take off his hands and eyes on his phone, in the middle of a jam packed        situation, right in the moment we needed him the most. LOL!

In short, we all had to carry him! He made his weight fluctuate left and right like a bouncing ball when he could have simply grabbed on any railing available – just as what everyone else was doing.

Finally, when the crowd subsided a little in Ortigas station, this same man had the gall to express his thoughts on his own inconvenience, again loudly for all of us to hear. That’s the time I spoke up to say the truth.

“Kinakarga ka po namin. Next time po humawak kayo sa railing. Wag ka muna mag cellphone.” (Next time, don’t hinge your weight on us. You could have just grabbed onto the railing but instead relied on us to carry you.”)

My words were limited and I wish I could have more time to explain. But it is what it is – as clear as day.

Sorry but it had to be me. I had to say it. Though I was fully prepared to carry him all throughout, walang problema, the lack of mindfulness, selfishness, and self-entitlement was too much that he needed someone to tell him.

I am unsure at first if I did the right thing – because as you know, “blessed are the peacemakers.” I could have held my tongue but I also live by “speaking the truth in love” because we’re all responsible for one another. I couldn’t have let the moment pass. We could learn a thing or two from strangers too.

But one thing I’m sure of is that I, 100% wasn’t looking for any trouble. In fact, I spoke the truth out of the intention to help this guy be a more responsible commuter.

It’s not entirely his fault. I understand we are all wired towards our phones and it could be that he couldn’t help it. But what I wish everyone to realize is that we all have to master an intrinsic kind of way to control our behaviors.

We all need to self-reflect sometimes. It is fairly OKAY to use your mobile phones. There are no LAWS banning that. However, it takes a certain amount of wisdom to become discerning or insightful: “Will I be a bother when I pull out my phone on this crowded place?” 

Again, this shoots off to other aspects of our lives:

“Will I bother other people if I put my music on too loudly?”

“Will I be inconveniencing anyone if I block off the air conditioning unit?”

“Will I cause someone a bad day if I just leave my piece of trash on this table?”

Friends, how many of us tie/hold our hair in place, hug our bags, hold onto the railings, give space for people, give up our seats for the elderly etc. during our public commutes — all for the purpose of being less of a bother to our fellow commuters? (Philippians 2:4)

There are lots of things we could ask OURSELVES so that we could come out on the streets more considerate of others.

In fairness, the man did seem to reflect a little on what I said.

Yes, it’s easy to think about our own sake and how hard it already is for us to ride the train, the jeep, the bus. But a little kindness and mindfulness on the needs of other people will not add to our burden.

If there’s a way we could squeeze in a little more to accommodate everyone’s needs then let’s do it. But it takes CONSCIOUSNESS and awareness first.

Oh please, I am not perfect! Haha. I have also been inconsiderate half of my life. But I am happy that God is slowly revealing things to me. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

I still struggle. But I use this blog to share my learning and to come back to it lest I forget in the future.

Ultimately, we pray for the public transportation to finally improve so that no other people be robbed of their peace and personal space during an entirely harmless commute.

Let’s try harder, do better the next time. 🙂

Should you really go and love yourself?

When we are full of ourselves, we miss God’s glory. But how could we tell if we are bound by something not pleasing to God when it looks so simple and harmless, and we do it every day?

As I write this, I wait for the train at the platform. An hour remains before I am considered late for work. Compared with any other day (from the start of the year at least) this has been the latest I’ve waited for the train to come. I usually hop on and get going by 7:30 AM.

What caused this slight time difference is maybe because of the morning ritual that I have at home. I spend more minutes trying to fix my appearance than taking a bath or setting the room because.. I don’t know! To please people I see on the road? To please me and gain false confidence? To.. please my husband? My workmates?

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I don’t know why I do it, but I have been bound by it for a long, long time. A decade’s worth that I am even willing to be late for the train than have no brows at all, which is entirely ridiculous because nobody has ever gone out of their way to say Hey! Your eyebrows look gorge today!

But on the other hand, people get recognized by their work, their manners, and their overall work ethics when they aim to arrive at work on time.

Yes, I dare say that coming to work on time is good manners just as dressing well and saying ‘please’ because it’s selfless. You decided to skip the meaningless ritual because people need you early. Work starts early and do we dare steal time from a company who put their trust in us?

This shoots off to even more significant decisions in life. Do we choose a home, a parking slot or a partner in life, based solely on our selfish ambitions?

“I want this home because it’s huge and I could have a large, soft, Instagram-worthy bed here.” Even if it’s a pain to get to.. or is too vast for you to maintain. Are you buying it for the family or only to fulfill a selfish want?

“I will park here because it’s convenient to me. When I’m just going to grab a cup of coffee.” Discounting the fact that you are healthy and able to walk. What if there are families who arrive with small kids and old people?

“I will marry this guy because he is so rich and cute and I would love to have him in selfies from now to forever. Not to mention, have all the Louboutins I want to my grave. Oh wait, I can’t cook, but it’s ok he loves me anyway.” Did we ever consider how he indeed is as a person? How and what could we give him to meet his needs in return? How come some rich and good-looking couples who marry end up divorced?

Even for men, do we court a woman because of our desire to fulfill our personal whims? We marry her no matter our bank savings. Even though we don’t have specific plans for growth? How about her needs?

The bible gave us a warning:

2 Timothy 3: 1-2

“But mark this: There will be terrible things in the last days.

People will be lovers of themselves.”

Friends, how much do we love ourselves compared to how much we love Jesus? I know I have loved myself too much for the longest time and I consider my husband and son as God’s way of directing my eyes away from myself and towards their needs.

Albeit not perfect and I struggle every day, I pray to God to convict my heart and reveal to me the things I do in vain and for selfish goals. He may grant me the wisdom and the humility to change what I can.

“So are you saying it’s EVIL to love myself and dream big for myself and achieve everything I want? Because I deserve it and I worked hard for it?”

No. But do not be deceived. Sometimes we get, sometimes we don’t. But consider everything we have as bestowed by God’s grace and blessings.

(REF: Philippians 2:3-4 and Psalm 34:7)

Have you thought about your family, friends, work, and workmates today? More deeply, have you given thought and prayer for the world today? How can we deny ourselves, have more of God in our lives, and be a blessing to others?

Let me pray for you: May God help you realize the things in your life that need change. Let all your decisions be made out of love and be blessed by God as part of His will. May He catch your heart and meet you WHEREVER YOU ARE right now and break the chains of doubt and self-hate to complete your healing. Amen.

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By the way, I look up now, and I am about to approach my train stop! I have 30 mins. left to get to the office and with conviction I say, I will make it. UPDATE: I did make it.

All in God’s glory.

5 Wonders of the Wunder app for Working Moms

At the height between the LTFRB and Grab/Uber clash on whether or not we should regulate these ride-sharing apps entirely, I just want to share my experience on the wonders I’ve had using another form of ridesharing app “Wunder”.

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Compared with Uber and Grab, the Wunder app focuses solely on carpooling with people within your area towards a common destination. The drivers you find here are common working men and women like you and me, who wish to earn tiny bucks by offering space in their own vehicles to compensate for gas.

When finally, I had the guts to try it, I realized that it is another effective, maybe better option that commuting moms could take over rush-hour metro rail transit or buses.

So here are the 5 wonders I’ve experienced from using Wunder:

1. We get to escape the horrifying lines at the MRT

In the many years I’ve treaded the metro, if I were given any other better option than taking a jam-packed train system on the way home, I’d take it. Not only does a suffocating train suck out the remaining energy you have at the end of the day, but it also won’t guarantee an earlier arrival time – especially during times of technical glitches. Lose-lose.

2. We get to leave at an agreed convenient time

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In your Wunder app, you get to input the time you prefer to leave home or the office. The app then sends a quick notification to all available drivers who prefer to leave at the same time you want – so it’s a win-win!

3. We get to arrive at our destination at a reasonable pace and price

Makati to Quezon City is charged for only Php 80. This price is nowhere near your Uber pool or grab pool’s offers – especially during surge hours where the prices get doubled! If you can spare an extra cash just to arrive conveniently to a destination 10 – 20km away, then go for it. And while we still consider the MRT as the fastest form of metro transportation, as it can still cut across EDSA in half an hour, carpooling doesn’t fall far behind in terms of pace. In about 1 – 1.5 hours max, you are guaranteed a safe(r), fast(er) and more convenient transportation option. (Traffic still exists!)

4. We get to be picked up at an agreed, convenient location

In my experience, I no longer need to walk to the jeepney stop (which is several blocks away from work). I simply ask the driver to pick me up at the nearest corner possible and voila! Within mins., I get to board the car.

5. We get to make new friends

Because you meet people from the same area as you live and work, and because you are all squeezed within the confines of a small car, you may be forced to chat with one another until you reach your destination!

But not all the time.

I mean, some people would still prefer to sleep on the way home. But for those who are extra chatty, Wunder may be a great avenue for you to meet new friends along the way.

When issues around the ride-sharing app world finally settle, try downloading the Wunder App to try it out for yourself!