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What happens when busy moms decide to meet up with their kids along?

My friend has been on my blog since our outdoorsy, beach, hiking, spelunking, canyoneering and mountain climbing days. Our stories revolved around fun and YOLO – the millennial meaning and implication, yes.

Now she’s back in my blog.. tamed. We both are, not because we lost our natural spunk and spirit but instead, we are now overpowered by two highly-spirited, no-rules-allowed, always giggly and curious little humans we call our kids.

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So we meet for “lunch and coffee..” and by the end of it, I post a photo of us on my Facebook.. all smiling, beaming and looking fulfilled. What the camera didn’t catch though are the following:

1. Me almost not making it to the meet-up

Not because I don’t want to meet, but since the beginning of the day, I’ve coordinated with furniture shops (aka Carousell lol), delivery guys, thought about pending articles to send, a class to go to (which I ended up canceling), a party to attend all while doing my laundry pile.

The whole morning went by too fast, and I found myself checking on my phone and saying “What? nandito na agad? What? Nandun na sila? What? 2pm na?” 

2. That moms (and dads) have suddenly developed the skill of talking with no eye-contact

Because the eyes are on the littles, who are running around the restaurant like it’s their home; one kid removed his shoes while the other slumped to the floor like he would on a bed. All while the parents discuss essential stuff like childcare and maybe outdoor schools.

Sometimes our trail of thought gets lost somewhere between airing our novela stories only to fade into the background noise because our minds cannot wander out for too long. Presence of mind (towards the kids mostly) is key.

3. Meeting up was more of a workout due to the number of times we stood up to catch our children

…before they open that door to escape at least. Or before they bother other people dining.

4. That moms shushing and shouting their kids’ names over a room filled with people is real.

I used to think it’s not ok, but when I caught myself doing it, I had to forgive the many parents I judged in the past.

5. The food ordered was for decoration only

Either we (well at least for me) were not hungry, or I didn’t have the time to eat at all because “I have work to do.”

But at the end of the day, we realized that parents who meet should have their own community, ya know? Like a group who perfectly understands the situation of “multi-tasking” while moms try to finish their coffee (while it’s hot = major win).

A team that will give one another the support they will need even during busy schedules. People who know exactly what it feels like to try to come to work with the kids or to meet with single friends who don’t know anything about the little heart jumps we get when we try to take our eyes off the small ones even for a second.

A community who will never judge you like everyone else.

I realized that it helps when moms meet up more! Despite our busy schedule, an hour of talking and catching up could do great wonders in life. Because the kids also have fun with that.

Psalms 127:3
Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
The fruit of the womb a reward.

Parenting: Why we feel that we don’t know a thing.

Last weekend was the first time, after how many weeks, that I have truly spent the day with my toddler – even if it were just within our bedroom. It was also when I got a closer look at how he’s been behaving these days.

We all know that our kids have their share of mischief and “misbehavior” and mine’s in the phase of finding comedy around throwing random things to the floor – because we react in such comic horror! Hehe.

Though in my heart, I find his laugh cute and amusing, I knew I had to “correct” the behavior. In a way, I believe that by curtailing our reactions (AKA ignoring his ‘bad behavior’) we can stop reinforcing it. But also, I know that if I were to correct something, it has to be immediate.

At one point, my toddler threw my powder to the corner of the room – and I responded by asking him nicely to retrieve it. “Get the powder please, give it to mommy,” I said.

But this little guy is stubborn (gee, wonder whose genes that came from? :D); he didn’t want to. And each time I carry him closer to the object, he just kicks it further away. I felt I had to be stern so I did.

It lasted about 15 mins. – of him just standing there; afraid to pick up the object and to ask angry mommy for forgiveness.

I kept repeating my instructions, just to remind him of the goal. When he refused to budge, I closed my eyes for a bit to give him the idea that the decision is his, and I am not watching.

Finally, when I opened my eyes, he picked up the powder, and with a shy but adorable smile, ran towards me to hand it over. “Thank you!!!,” I say proudly. Just when he burst into tears as he finally got to hug me.

Being tough to someone we love, especially a little kid is heartbreaking. Sometimes, it makes us doubt ourselves whether it’s right to impose concepts like “discipline” to such a young and naturally playful mind.

As for my child, I do not want him to cry. And believe me, I resisted every urge to come pick him up and let the incident just slide. But as parents, we are gifted with such a precious and enormous role of leading our children into the path of goodness. We need to love our kids through discipline (Proverbs 22:15).

In the three years that I’ve started out this parenting thing, I can confidently say that there are a lot of things I still don’t know. But that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing because we continue to learn.

Sometimes, I feel the guilt of not being able to supervise his growing up years 24/7. But I am thankful for God’s promise to care for our kids even when we can’t (Isaiah 54:13). Thankful too, for other people who become instruments of learning for our kids on our behalf.

How I got a free Skin Defence Multi-Protection Essence SPF 50 by The Body Shop PH

I’ve been working in the advertising field for quite some time now. Promos and contests like in The Body Shop Philippines’ IG page isn’t new to me since I am familiar with the efforts that marketing people like me do to come up with such. However, it was my first time ever to join an online contest and “be chosen” in the end to try out a new product. In this case,  the BodyShopPH’s new Skin Defence Multi-Protection Essence SPF 50.

Promo Mechanics:

So one day, I stumbled upon blogger @anagon ‘s post inviting #instagrammers to join this simple contest. All I had to do was upload a photo of myself holding an umbrella and use about three hashtags. Fortunately that weekend, my sister and I went to the Pinto Art Museum in Antipolo City where we were able to take home a handful of truly instagram-worthy, artsy photos (the only content of my IG as of the moment, lol). Coincidentally, it was raining cats and dogs that time so I was able to take home a photo of myself in an umbrella. I had an instant entry without even knowing about the contest yet.

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It’s not much. Just a candid photo taken by my sister of myself walking the steps of one of the museum’s gardens. I used a color selection filter which muted  the background and made the red hues stand out. I added the hashtags and waited for the announcement. A week after, they announced five winners and I was one of them! 🙂

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THE ESSENCE OF SKIN DEFENSE

  1. We owe ourselves a healthy mind and body

As a full-time employee, a mom and a wife, I am faced with lots of responsibilities, which can keep me preoccupied for a long time. We always have events and… I love constant beach trips and mountain climbing. I don’t mind getting dirty from outdoor activities at all.

However, just because we’re busy juggling life and we love the outdoors, doesn’t mean that we should lose the commitment to take care of ourselves too.

2. We need a regimen that is not dragging to do

Good thing this new product Skin Defence Multi-Protection Essence SPF 50 promises to do the heavy work while keeping it light (literally), as we continue our daily lives. I just got the product so I can’t make a review of its effectiveness just yet but I was able to try it on my skin already. I was happy and surprised to find out that its milky cream is lightweight! It gets absorbed by the skin without the sticky feel – which is EXACTLY the kind of product I prefer! Given that we have to always come to work slightly made up, I wouldn’t want my face to feel heavy on top of other products of course. A lightweight cream also allows us to use this product everyday – even when it’s raining because toxins are still present no matter the weather. We need our daily dose of skin protection.

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Plus, this new sunblock also promises to shield against daily aggressors, which in my case, since I commute from home to work and vv, are smoke pollution, sunlight (harmful UV rays) and yes, acid rain. I just love the thought of having a thin layer on my skin doing its responsibility of keeping these bad stuff out of the pores.

3. We need to improve the things that we can

Lastly, those who know me personally would also know that I don’t have the perfect glowing skin! Yes because our skin would still depend on our genes you know what I mean? 🙂 But it doesn’t mean that we won’t try to improve the things we can change. In this case, we can make it smoother. Or as this product claims, more luminous in just four weeks. Let’s see about that?

Other things that might be interesting for moms or women about this product in general are:

  • UVB protection: SPF 50 helps protect skin from UVB rays that trigger redness and damage the skin’s surface.
  • Anti-oxidant effects: Helps protect skin from external aggressors such as environmental pollution that weakens the skin’s ability to remain healthy.
  • Anti-dullness effect: With red algae extract and vitamin C to brighten skin for a more luminous complexion.
  • It also has red algae extract and vitamin C that keep the skin bright

The #NoFilter Life

Women today tend to find it easier to slack off with their skin regimen because our mobile apps have high-tech filters that fake glowing skin! But without our IG and #vsco filters, how would our skin look like? It’s time to fight off skin aggressors and achieve the healthy body that we want to have.

#SkinIntheCity #NotJustForSummerButForever #thebodyshopph